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Collective Allies

March 17, 2021

"Purpose Becomes Real When Shared."

Choose Your Path

We are all on our own journeys in life. Making conscious choices that fit our unique story is the key. Its not always clear how to move forward, but each day we lay the foundation for what comes ahead. Sometimes it’s all about walking the path and trusting it’s the right way. Other times it’s important to reflect and set new intentions. In either case we benefit from structure, accountability and inspiration when we are studying our chosen topics.

“There is the world that we create,
and there is the world that has created us.
These two worlds must come together.
That is the goal of the journey.”

Dieter Duhm

Find Your Allies

Collective Allies LogoEveryone in the group in encouraged to creates a list of topics they are interest in and want to discuss with others. A common way to explore a topic further is to establish books you want to read and online courses to take. As a member of the collective, your list of topics, books and interests are displayed in a way that other members can see. This makes networking and discussing meaningful topics easier by cutting out small talk and getting right to meaningful conversations. Through this process you can find others who are on the same path with a chosen topic.

Share The Journey

An alliance is formed when two or more people agree to communicate regularly with each other on a chosen topic or while reading a selected book or taking an online course together. This can be helpful with learning from others, staying accountability for what you commit to and making the journey more enjoyable. Whenever we want to grow or improve in something, establishing connections with other who share the interest is crucial. Setting a re-occurring date to check in with you ally helps keep you moving forward on your path while sharing the journey.

How Alliance Accountability System Works

This accountability system is designed to facilitate and maintain comradery on any agreed upon topic chosen by 2 people. At it’s core it is simple, only requiring 3 things to form an alliance with someone.

  1. topic, skill or activity that you are interested in growing in some way.
  2. partner who is also interested in that topic (Your Ally).
  3. frequency of communications, such as every 1st Friday of the month.

There are 2 ways to start an alliance, either by choosing a topic, then seeking out someone to ally with, or by choosing someone you already know, then figuring out a topic you both want to support in each other on a regular basis.

Here is more information about those 3 required aspects to an alliance:

1) Choosing a Topic

A topic can be any subject, activity or interest as specific or as vague as you desire. You can start the process by first choosing a topic you want to improve on or enhance in your life. For example, you could choose a topic as broad as exercise, or as specific as tennis. Some other examples are: lucid dreaming, creative writing, drawing, music, diet, life purpose, and spirituality.

When you have chosen a topic it is recommended to write out your intention, motivation and goals around this topic. Writing 1 paragraph is enough to clarify to yourself and others why you want to be involved in that topic. It also helps you set your intention and desire to find someone to partner with on that topic.

2) Selecting an ally

Simply by setting intention to find someone who is interested in a particular topic can set things in motion. It is important to take action by actively being social and seeking out events and meetups that are related to your chosen topic with the goal of finding an ally.

You are not finding someone who is going to help you achieve your goal. Instead you are finding someone who is also interested in that topic, and also has their motivation to stay in communication on that topic. An ally has no expectation to help you, they are only agreeing to listen to you, and share in some form. An ally does not have any obligation to give you feedback, or contribute to one of your ideas in any way. They are on their own path. As allies you support each other by communicating what you have learned recently, and by listening to what the other ally has to share. It is not a collaboration, as much as it is an accountability system to keep you learning and growing on your chosen topic.

3) Committing to a frequency and style of communication

This step requires both allies to decide on how frequently to communicate, and in what form. For example every first friday of the month by phone. Or every Sunday by email. When choosing a style of communication, it’s important to commit to communicating even if your ally is unavailable or does not respond. If you call your ally and they do not answer, you leave a voice message sharing about your experiences, and you have completed your obligation. Your goal is to communicate your process with them, and be open to listening to their process. You are not always going to be able to meet in person, or talk live, so rely on a chosen messaging system in case your ally is not available.

A good structure for communication on your chosen topic is to review what has happened since you last communicated, and declare what you plan to do next. This does not require any input or feedback from your ally but a 2 way conversation would be ideal. Keep the communication balanced by allowing your ally to share at least an equal amount of time you shared with them. If you try to talk too much without putting equal energy into listening, it may cause your ally to avoid communicating with you, which could lead to the end of the alliance.

The core of your alliance is in holding each other accountable for what you say, and to help each other to keep moving forward. Your ally is not there to do work for you, they are only there to listen. If they choose to give feedback or help in some way, this is a gift above and beyond what is expected of them. Likewise, you don’t have to help your ally in any way other than to listen to what they have to say and maintain a positive and enjoyable relationship. You get what you give.

Staying Accountable

Once you agree upon those 3 things with a partner, and maintain communication on the agreed upon frequency, then you in an alliance. It is highly recommended enter in the future dates that you will be communicating into a calendar with a reminder system, such as Google Calendar or a calendar app or alarm clock app on your phone. If you don’t communicate on the chosen frequency, then you must revise and or re-commit to the 3 points above, or the allies ends.

You can also choose to gamify your alliance by signing up for Habitica, and creating a party for your alliance. You can setup a reminder system in Habitica, and gain points for checking off tasks you create regarding your alliance.

How to Get Started with The Paper Version

The paper version is available for downloading and printing out. One topic per print out. The top area is for you to write out the topics of your alliance. It can be any subject, activity or interest you share and want to grow. The next line labeled “ally” is where you write in the name and contact info for a person who is also interested in that topic and has agreed to be in communication about it. The column to the right, under “Frequency” is where you put how often you plan to communicate with that person. For example: Every Friday, or the first Sunday of each month. Or on the full moon. Remember; you are agreeing to get in contact with them on that those days by you chosen method: E-mail, phone, or text. Your goal is to share with them in any way you choose on that topic, whether they are available or not. Leaving a message is acceptable. After you agree upon a contact frequency, program a reminder into your calendar or alarm clock.

There are spaces to add an mentor, apprentice, and roll model, but those are not required. The bottom area labeled “Declarations and Revelations” is where you put goals, information, and notes that are important and you want to remember. Each time you contact your ally, you can add a sentence or bullet about what you shared. Be sure to date each entry. Once that area is filled up, you can write on the back of the paper.

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Be sure to set a reminder in your calendar or alarm clock after filling out the paper version. Optionally, you can use Habitica to gamify your progress.

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